I will be sharing from the book of 1Corinthians 7. This is where Paul made an emphasis on the issues of mixed marriages.
First and foremost what do we mean by mixed marriage? Mixed marriage from a spiritual point of view, is one that constitute both believer and unbeliever joined together to spend the rest of their lives together. We can simply describe it as a marriage that constitute two people with different self-belief.
Many of us might mistake the idea with that part of the bible that says, do not be unequally yoked. Paul made us understand, that our lives are not defined by our marital status but by God. He further explained that, for the people who are in mixed marriage, there is no explicit command from the master to Christians marrying non – Christians. For a man with a wife who is not a believer, but still wants to live him, he must hold on to her. For a woman with a husband who is not a believer, but he wants to live with her, she must hold on to him. He stated again that, the unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife i.e the holiness of the wife can be a cover for the man as well and that is grace, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband i.e the holiness of the husband can be a cover for the wife as well and that is grace too. And a warning follows that if the unbelieving spouse walks out, we’ve got to let him or her go and not necessarily hold on desperately. This implies that God is not involved in such affair,because if he is involved, he will ensure they both work out their salvation together and live peacefully together.
I must confess I believed so much in this particular scripture of the bible because my own parent are a living testimony to this. My mother married my father as an unbeliever but today they are both believers and waxing stronger in Christ everyday. As humans, we take the issue of marriage into our hands and we begin to attribute marriage to religion instead of character. God defines us by our character and not our religion but still wants us to fellowship with Christ as a true believer. Many people even end up with unbelieving so called Christians which make their marriage life unbearable. Sometimes being in love with an unbeliever can be their salvation in disguise. God could have designed us in a way to work out the salvation of such person and fortunately end up together forever. God doesn’t look at things the way Humans do,but it is necessary we put God first when finding the perfect match for us,and only then can he lead us right to choose right.
We should always put God first in the issues of marriage and not religion.